Sex & Sexuality!....Wait what's the difference?

Sex & Sexuality!….Wait what’s the difference?

With society slowly (very slowly) becoming more open to discussing the topic of sex and sexuality, you may be finding you too are also becoming curious. You may be curious as to what exactly the difference is between the two or curious as to why professions are now highlighting it as an area of life that also needs attention and care, similar to our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual natures.

Well, sex, I feel I can confidently say that majority of us are aware of what this is. But, what the hell, for those of us who aren’t familiar lets at least look at the basic dictionary explanation of the term sex. So in this context, we are talking about the different types of sexual activities you can have with yourself or with other people. Sexuality however is a much broader term. Sexuality is about your sexual feelings, thoughts, beliefs, preferences, and behaviours towards others. Your sexuality also reverts outwards to include others, for example, it involves how you find other people physically, sexually, or emotionally attractive, all those things are also part of your sexuality. It’s important to know that your sexuality is a result of the experiences you have through life and that just like most things in our life changes and evolves. Coming to terms with your sexuality can be a very liberating, exciting, and positive experience but requires your attention and time. Another important thing to remember is that sexuality is an important part of who you are. There is no right or wrong, it’s about what’s feels right for you.

So why is it important to have a healthy sexuality and sex life?

People who struggle to understand, explore, or accept their sexuality tend to have higher mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and substance abuse, compared to the general population. Having to deal with these internal struggles for long periods of time result in unhealthy levels of stress that can cause physiological issues. Life is already full of stressful situations, so if you find you’re having difficulty with your sexuality talk to someone or seek out professional support. Additionally, we need to ensure that we don’t judge others for their sexuality or sex life. Everyone is different, we can’t all be the same, and regardless of our differences, everyone deserves the right to be respected. So now that we’ve covered basic sex and sexuality 101, it’s time to carry out aa check-in with yourself.

Activity: Check-in.

Allow yourself space and time to carry this activity out. Ensure that there are no distractions and you can concentrate. Now, take some deep breaths and relax then ask yourself the following questions.

  • Where am I with my sex and sexuality?
  • I am happy with where I am
  • What feels right or wrong and I am staying true to these boundaries?

A quick and easy self stock take may open you to a deeper understanding of yourself which is a great start.

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